The Art of Commenting ~ Dos & Don'ts

Commenting is a wonderful and useful element of blogging. I've met so many lovely people through commenting on blogs. I've found awesome posts and learned about a plethora of novels too among other things. That being said, there is definitely a commenting decorum, a list of dos and don'ts if you will, that should be upheld.

DO read the post

The whole point of commenting is to respond to the post content!! Actually read the post before you comment or you might look silly and ridiculous when you make a blunder. 

Don't not read the post

Self-explanatory I hope.

DO leave a nice and thoughtful comment.

It really brightens a blogger's day to see someone leave a kind and thoughtful comment. It shows that you really care and that you actually read the post! I love reading people's thoughts and responses to my posts, especially the discussion ones. That being said, if you can't think of anything to say in response to the posts you see, leave and come back later when there are new posts up. 

DON'T write a generic and impersonal comment 

"great review, can't wait to read this." <-- Impersonal and a bit annoying. Why bother commenting?!

DO leave a link to your blog 

Lots of bloggers comment back. Leave a link so it's easy for us to find your blog!

DON'T tell the blogger to check out your blog or follow you

It annoys me so much when someone says "check out my blog" or "please follow" or "follow for a follow?" That's not the way it's done!! It's kind of rude and shows that your comment is insincere and you just want a follow.

DO comment on various blogs 

You'll meet so many people and be exposed to wonderful content and such diverse blogs. I feel like bloggers who don't comment on other blogs really isolate themselves. Blogging doesn't have to be just your blog, it's about the blogger community too and seeing what other people are reading, what other people thought of a certain book, what opinions they have, what new ideas they bring to light in discussion posts. Don't be shy to comment!!

DON'T get mad if a blogger doesn't comment back

Not everyone comments back though, and you shouldn't take it personally. Some people just don't have the time or if you're like me, you comment back nearly a month later. I'm really sorry about that everyone, school is kicking all my commenting time out the door.

DO comment back

If you plan on commenting on other blogs, why not start by commenting back on the blogs of those who commented on your blog? It's a nice way of saying "thank you" for their commenting in the first place. There's no need to set a score or keep track of whose turn it is to comment back, just comment when you feel like it!  

DON'T not comment back and wonder why no one comments

Commenting back is really beneficial, and I highly recommend it! Commenting back is a great way to generic traffic and more comments on your blog (among other elements). You won't get as many comments if you don't put yourself out there and expose your blog to more people. 

Those are my tips on the art of commenting! Comments aren't everything, but they really sweeten the blogging experience. :)
Have any additional dos and don'ts to share? 

Rachel is a teenaged unapologetic fangirl and perfectionist.

She loves reading for the escape it gives from reality and enjoys crying over books, swooning over characters, and laughing out loud over funny lines. She is a semi-recovering Netflix addict and a middle child of three.

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  1. Awesome post, Rachel! I am still pretty new to blogging, so although I try my best when commenting, this post was really helpful!! I'll be sure to keep these things in mind in the future :D

  2. Great post, Rachel. Commenting back is great! When I started blogging, I NEVER commented on other people's blog. It was later when I realised that's not how I should have done things.

    Vane at Books Wtih Chemistry

  3. Rachel, I LOVE THIS. It's such great advice, and I think we could all use to hear it from time to time. Like, come on, you do not TELL someone to follow you. That is not nice. And this line: "There's no need to set a score or keep track of whose turn it is to comment back, just comment when you feel like it!"- that is something I need to tell MYSELF. I get mad at myself if I haven't commented back on someone's post yet and they commented on two of mine but seriously, no one has a score card!

    Also, #1 is SO important. I once posted this big paragraph about how I didn't get any new books for that week.. and someone said "Hope you enjoy all the new books"... seriously? SO I googled it... and wouldn't you know, that person had copied and pasted the SAME LINE (including her own link, of course!) into every single person on the StS list! So ridiculous, and NOT a good way to make connections. Fabulous post, Rachel!

    (Or you know... "Great post, follow my blog!"... no?)
    Shannon @ It Starts At Midnight

  4. Ohh I really love the Do's & Don'ts posts you have recently posted!! They are really informative and great tips to learn so thanks for all those tips! :)

    1. Hi, I just wanted to let you guys know that I have nominated the staff of APCB for the Blogger Recognition Award, and I hope you guys will have fun answering the question! ;)

  5. Looks like you've perfected the art of commenting haha, so thank you for summing it all up so beautifully! I always try to comment back even when I don't have the time to reply to all the comments I get. And it really does make my day to see someone leave a thoughtful comment that shows they actually READ the post. It astounds me to no end how some people can leave quite OBVIOUSLY insincere comments that show they didn't even read the post. You missed this- how some people blatantly disagree with the post when commenting. They can at least be NICE about it, right? Anyways, loved this post, Rachel! x

    Ruzaika @ The Regal Critiques

  6. YES to all of these! That last one especially bugs the crap out of me! I've seen so many bloggers lament the fact they don't get many comments on their blogs and these are the same people who never ever do commenting. It shouldn't always be about "scratching each others' backs", but once in a while there's nothing wrong with it. I feel like when you're commenting on other people's blogs there's also the likelihood of other people seeing links, especially on WP blogs, and making comments.
    Great post!

  7. Really great post!! I try to comment on a lot of different blogs. The only time I don't read a whole post if it is a review of something I don't want to spoil. I might skim and read the summary paragraph. I always try to comment back but sometimes a miss one or two. I agree it is not a score card type thing but it is nice to see a blog you frequently visit comment back one in a while. Not that it has ever stopped me from visiting or commenting on a blog if they don't. Great tips!!

  8. I absolutely love comments! I love getting them and leaving them on other blogs. I know how awesome it feels to have someone read your posts and take the time to leave their thoughts about them, so I make it a point to do the same. :) Also, it's a great way of finding blogging friends and even learning from them. Yay for commenting! :D

    Julie @ Books and Insomnia

  9. Here I am, commenting back! I wrote a similar post 2 weeks ago. I have trouble commenting back to blogspot for some reason. I got a new computer, and depending on the commenting options, I get a Whoops message, so I visit those via my tablet, which just isn't as good for reading blogs, you know? I hope to be back soon.

  10. AGREE AGREE AGREE. Especially to actually READING the post. I remember this one time someone commented on my April Fool's post and she didn't even know the book wasn't real. But I also try to comment a lot, but ONLY when I have something to say! Awesome post Rachel!! :D :D :D

  11. I agree with all of the points you made! I'm also like you with commenting back and actually moderating comments - it takes me months to get to it.

    I WILL admit I skim posts sometimes - enough to get a general idea and make a meaningful comment. Sometimes I DO have the time to read the entire post, though. I don't usually have a thing against someone saying "new follower!" after they make a meaningful comment, though. ;p

    Awesome tips, Rachel!

  12. Great post and awesome advice! I have tried not to comment unless I actually have something to say. When I first started out, I made a lot of generic comments. And I am probably still guilty of doing that sometimes when it comes to book reviews. But I have gotten a bit better with that. I have gotten the occasional comment from someone, saying "follow me back!" I HATE that! I have never done that. I do comment on a lot of blogs so others will know I am out there, but it's up to them if they follow me or not.

  13. I really need to work on the commenting back! I always try to do that, but when I get in the zone of replying to comments on my blog, I always forget. Classes/jobs are definitely a time sucker; I've been feeling horrible lately about my inability to even leave comments on other blogs. But I always get there, like you said, even if it's a month late!

  14. Yes to all of these! Especially when they say "I'm a new follower, please follow back"... I hate that. I dint want to feel obligated to follow back! Great dos and donts :)

  15. Ah commenting! I love doing it sometimes because it helps me feel more part of the community, plus there are some really great posts published every day (Like this one)! I always cringe when I see comments that simply say "Great post! Check out my blog!." Not only do you have to be sincere about your comments but come on, if someone wants to check out your blog, they will! It especially bugs me when people have pre typed comments and all they do is copy, paste, publish. Commenting is a way you can connect with people and I love doing it. Thanks for this awesome post! :)

    ~Kaitlin @ Next Page Please!

  16. Fantastic post Rachel!
    I think my two biggest pet peeves are people clearly not having read the post at all by saying something that has been mentioned in it, and also the "follow my blog" or the "come and comment on my post here" things... it really puts me off from doing exactly that!
    Having an easy way to visit their blog is one thing but being pushy about telling others to "go comment" is not okay!

  17. I completely agree, Bloggers Commenting Back and all, haha. Commenting can be really fun and a great way to make new friends, you can see a lot more from a blogger's personality by chatting with them, rather than just reading their reviews. I'm also always about a few days to a week behind on commenting back but I always make sure to do it and make it meaningful. Like you said, "This post is cool" doesn't really make for fun discussion. One thing though is that if I have commented on a blog numerous times and someone never replies, I usually stop because one sided conversation is no fun. Great post!

  18. Awesome post! Lots of great pointers. I honestly don't always read the entire post if it's a review for a book that I plan to read very soon because of my irrational fear of spoilers. Otherwise, I totally agree. Why comment if you haven't read it?!

    Anyway... Follow for follow? <--- Baaaahaha KIDDING! :)

  19. Yessss this post is a must-read for any blogging newbie. I sat on my blog for an entire 1 month wondering why no one was paying attention to me and being super bitter about it. Then I discovered Blog Commenting (needs capitals because it is Important) and it absolutely changed my site. I also love commenting back as it allows me to build relationship over time with my blog readers! Great post, Rachel!

    Aentee at Read at Midnight.

  20. Great advice. When I get a really good, thoughtful comment on a post it really does make my whole day!
    Jen @ YA Romantics

  21. This is amazing advice, Rachel. You basically read my mind. I really wish I knew the importance of commenting on other blogs when I was new but I know now that it does help. I'm also not a fan of generic comments. Who the hell wants that? It bothers me because you can tell right away they didn't read the post and only want a comment back. But I also agree that when you can't think of something, it's best not to comment.

    ~Karina @ A Reader Under The Sea

  22. Great post! Commenting is so so so important. Comments make the world go round, as they say ... (maybe ... )
    It can be easy to forget that other people's blogs are their art; they've spent time on that post, and whilst no one is under compulsion to read anyone else's blog, if you write your own .... it kinda follows that you should! A comment doesn't take long to write, but it can really make someone else's day; even be the difference between whether they keep blogging or not.

    Emily @

  23. I agree with all of these! I am someone who really does try to comment back to all the comments I receive on my blog, and I try to read one or two different blogs every day (if I find the time, which I usually do!) I also have a few selective blogs I follow closely. But it does mean a lot when people comment, because it makes blogging so much fun! We can have discussions and talk, and it just makes the community so much closer ^^

  24. LITERALLY ALL OF THIS. Honestly I'm so tired of those generic comments because you'll see them on other blogs too and it's a straight up copy/paste ugh. I HAVEN'T COMMENTED IN SO LONG TBH. GAHHHHHHH I need to start that up again lol

  25. Wonderful post and I agree with everything!!! I don't leave my link at the bottom of posts, but maybe I should. I prefer when people do on mine, makes it a lot easier for me to go and visit them. Maybe I should start to do that myself, that's a really good idea!!!

    I got behind on comments and blogging, but recently managed to claw it back a bit. Have had so much fun visiting all my favourite blogs and reading through the posts. Sometimes I don't have much to say and choose not to comment, rather then post something that seems pointless. I hate the generic 'Great post! Check out my blog' comments. THOSE ARE THE WORST!!! >.<

  26. Great post! I have a lot of thoughts about commenting and I pretty much agree with all of this! I think it's super important that bloggers comment on each other's blogs - it just makes us feel good and let's us know we're being heard! I always try to visit my friends' blogs and new blogs every week. But you're right - these need to be thoughtful comments! It's annoying when someone comments with a few words and then links us to a post on their blog.. I'm like, really?

    Anyway, love this!

  27. I've realized one of my pet peeves, and perhaps it's just a flaw on my part (or something) and this may not have anything to do with this post, but! My pet peeve is people who link to other blogs whether it's an article or just the blog itself and there is zero acknowledgement. For instance, multiple link-ups I've done and I don't get a single 'thanks for sharing my blog/post' comment. I guess I will take it personal because I spend countless hours, like so many other people. reading other blogs that if you are mentioned elsewhere it would be nice for the author of the original post to say thanks. I don't care if you don't read the post, or say my name anywhere else, but just saying thank you makes blogging a whole lot easier for the person who's still a small-time blogger trying to be noticed in a ever growing franchise of book bloggers.
    I'm sorry for using your post for this, but I thought it was something that needed to be mentioned as it's something that can get very discouraging.
    - Krys

  28. I'm fairly new to the world of blogging and have been too shy to get out there and meet everyone. Hopefully I can follow this list and get into the community more soon. Thanks for the tips! :) And the few times I have I haven't been successful at seeing the replies. Any tips for that? Maybe I just have my stuff rigged up with the wrong email or something, I'm oblivious as to how to check.


I read, value, and cherish each and every comment. Although I don't have time to respond to most of them, I make every effort to comment back on your blog! :)